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Lost Yourself?

If you want to lose yourself rather quickly and stay in a black hole of pleasing other's,  just keep conforming. In the daily routine of life we need to adhere to rules, laws and be responsible, I get that, what does does not work is ignoring who you really are, what you really need and what truly resonates with you, and only you.
Being the good girl, the good employee, the good person is great! If it comes  from the soul, the second you are doing ANYTHING out of obligation or guilt it is toxic! Toxic to your health, to your mood to your soul at the core. I believed I had to be the good girl, good kid, good daughter, wife, lover, mom etc..... until I hit a wall and never felt like I did enough, or everyone was happy and I basicly felt like shit everyday and felt like dying.
How could I possibly be responsible for so many people? Who died and left me in charge? Why me? I will tell you why......because I learned that pattern and I allowed it! Poor me..... the victim, bullshit!!
You have the choice ALWAYS, unless you choose not to choose.
So I found a healer, got support, I learned how to take care of myself, I did the work, I learned self love and I started my journey to now! Trust me it sucked at times, but, I am free and happy today, nothing better.
Tips for not conforming:
1) If you feel that twinge in your gut, most likely it is wrong for you.
2) When you say No, people don't like you, fuck it! Ignore them.
3) Be a bad ass once in a while, it feels so good!!
4) Change your routine, even slightly once a day will shift your energy.
5) Thicken your skin, if someone truly loves you, they will never put conditions on their love! I mean it!
Love & Light❤️️✨





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