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The X

As I begin this article I am grinning, I know this is a delicate subject for many women. In society many would say I am a divorced, mother of two, aka single mom and have a lot on my plate.  And, yes these few facts are basically true but there is more to the story, (as always) that meets the eye.

My "X" is the best thing that ever happened to me! Yes, I said it, and I am sure this sounds crazy, but it is all true. Let me explain, in the reality of stress, dealing with infedelity, dishonesty and dissappointments and ultimately divorce a woman can become hardened, sad and hate. Well, hate I did, for quite a while, until the hate began to burn a toxic hole in my gut. I realized I had to see the lesson that was happening to me.
I was always a people pleaser, the "good girl" for everyone, family, friends, strangers. Your needs were my command, I was the perfect wife, daughter, friend. But, at the price of being my worst enemy. When the needs of other's came first, of course I came last, this was normal to me for a long time, until my soul said, "No More."

The evolution of my marriage to another human who just needed a mommy was what finally set me over the edge, and I am grateful for falling, because I had to get up, get help and heal.
It was time to change! And change I did, slowly but surely I learned how to honor myself, love myself and be free.  My journey has been bumpy, some days it still is, but I now have the tools to handle anything that arises.  If we keep doing the same things over and over, we will continue to get the same results, just take back your power.
Now I send everyone who hurt me love & light, not hate, I see them as vehicles that brought me to a better, joyous place in my life.
I am forever grateful to my X, he blessed me with two amazing children, a wake up call that changed my life & was my catalyst for growth. Be grateful for the past, be grateful for today, be grateful for all the tiny things that make a difference.
"Make the "X" the "Y" you are happy and free today!" MFC

Love & Light
Maria



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