Intuitive Business Consultant and Growth Strategist Maria Fontana

Yes! I said it, I don't care what you think of me. I don't care what you say about me either, and I will tell you why.  As many of us in our childhood I was conditioned to put other's first. The "people" mattered most of all, later I wondered who the fuck these people really were and what they had to do with my life anyway. What strangers, neighbors, relatives and just about everyone else said or thought had importance, my voice did not, what I felt was always pushed down.  My voice was stifled and my feelings ignored, now this is not a "poor me" story, but a story of growth.  As I healed and did immense work on myself I discovered "I" mattered, my voice mattered and my feelings mattered.  Simple gestures of self love towards myself helped me grow, here are a few I used: Scheduling myself for me time Eliminating toxic people from my circle Saying "NO" Doing only what brings me "Joy" and nothing out of obligation ...

As I begin this article I am grinning, I know this is a delicate subject for many women. In society many would say I am a divorced, mother of two, aka single mom and have a lot on my plate.  And, yes these few facts are basically true but there is more to the story, (as always) that meets the eye. My "X" is the best thing that ever happened to me! Yes, I said it, and I am sure this sounds crazy, but it is all true. Let me explain, in the reality of stress, dealing with infedelity, dishonesty and dissappointments and ultimately divorce a woman can become hardened, sad and hate. Well, hate I did, for quite a while, until the hate began to burn a toxic hole in my gut. I realized I had to see the lesson that was happening to me. I was always a people pleaser, the "good girl" for everyone, family, friends, strangers. Your needs were my command, I was the perfect wife, daughter, friend. But, at the price of being my worst enemy. When the needs of other's came first,...

My story? Do you really want to know it? Do I really want to share it? What will you think of me? Will you judge me? Perhaps you may, but that is none of my business. My story is long and complicated, from childhood to adulthood I repeated the same lessons until I got it. A tale for my book at a later date,  trust me it is interesting, to say the least. My story came from my soul, it is my personal truth, the very thing that created the healer I am today. When I share my story, people feel safe, supported & heard. It is a simple gift that story telling opens up your heart and shows others you survived, you healed, you did it and so can they. Being in your power allows your truth to shine brightly, your truth may be exactly what needs to come out for you and other's. I chose to share my vulnerability as a vehicle to demonstrate strength and authenticity in my life.  My pattern had been taught to me from childhood, to hide and act like none of "it" was true, don...

It is all too familiar, dysfuction in families at all levels. We all got shit, and if you say you don't, it is probably worst than most.  Instead of replaying the negative experiences and focusing on who and what did you wrong, focus on what you learned, focus on what you do not want to continue as a family pattern. In each negative experience you will find the lesson and blessing, not always clear and easy, but it is there. My lessons were not clear to me until I accepted where and what I came from, I focused on the good values, strong will and independance I was taught. It was when I fully accepted that certain people were doing the best they knew how and it wasn't about me, but about them. I also  had to forgive everyone I felt had done me wrong and let it go. Yep, let it go! It was the first step to my personal freedom and the best thing I have ever done for myself. Remember, forgiveness does not mean you accept poor behavior, it simply means you are moving forward and not...

Believing everything thing is going to be alright, is sometimes downright hard. Especially when you are bombarded with crap going wrong, unexpected bills, illness and the daily bullshit that occurs (you all know what I mean). In the midst of every negative experience in my life I have found the blessing, the new direction, the door I thought was sealed shut, but not always did I see this reality, I was so consumed with being pissed off it blocked my vision.  You see, slowly I began to follow advice from my coach and simple changes empowered me to simply change my way of looking at things. Trust me this took time and practice, with some days of skepticism and struggle. Believe me when I say, when I changed the way I looked at things, suddenly things changed the way they looked. Small manageable changes will bring you to a more peaceful, manageable life. Here are some solutions to creating dreams from your drama: Stop and breathe, if you lose control you can not think clearly...

If you want to lose yourself rather quickly and stay in a black hole of pleasing other's,  just keep conforming. In the daily routine of life we need to adhere to rules, laws and be responsible, I get that, what does does not work is ignoring who you really are, what you really need and what truly resonates with you, and only you. Being the good girl, the good employee, the good person is great! If it comes  from the soul, the second you are doing ANYTHING out of obligation or guilt it is toxic! Toxic to your health, to your mood to your soul at the core. I believed I had to be the good girl, good kid, good daughter, wife, lover, mom etc..... until I hit a wall and never felt like I did enough, or everyone was happy and I basicly felt like shit everyday and felt like dying. How could I possibly be responsible for so many people? Who died and left me in charge? Why me? I will tell you why......because I learned that pattern and I allowed it! Poor me..... the victim, bullshi...

Worrying about what other people think is a dead end. Other people's opinions of us do not matter in the reality of life, these misconceptions are learned behaviors which can be unlearned. Consuming our daily life around the approval, thoughts and wishes of others can fill your life and self worth .  Filling your head with only doubt. I have been guilty of giving a crap way too much in my life, because I was taught to worry about what people think, it had become a way of life and seemed like there was no other way. "Oh my, what will the neighbors think....?"  Through years of working on myself using efficient tools and techniques I am finally free, well, ( I occasionally fall off the wagon, but catch myself and get right back on track!)  By changing my thoughts and destructive pattern of not loving myself enough and not listening to my gut (aka-intuition.)  Sometimes stuff looks good on paper but is really challenging when you attempt to apply it to your daily...

Do you ever listen to your self talk? I mean on a daily basis? Negative or self sabotaging thoughts become words and then they co-create your daily life. Sounds crazy? Right?  Well, I know I once thought that way too and was very skeptical and guilty of negative self talk, (not pretty, trust me).  We may have learned these destructive ways to self talk from our childhood environment or surroundings, and honestly you got to let that go, because most of our parents and guardians were doing the best they could, with what they knew how, bottom line.  If you want to move forward you must release the blame, I know it is not easy, but necessary! Now you can own your story and take back your own power. What is my power you ask?  Let me tell you, it is your natural power within to be great at anything you choose, it is the magical light inside your soul which is stronger than anything else on this planet, it is pure LOVE! When I decided to experiment with this whole posi...

When you imagine your future, do not think it will be as it is today. Use your amazing imagination and light  to create a film of all you desire in your life. When we focus on problems we give them attention and lose sight of creating attainable solutions. And the way we speak to ourselves hundreds of times a day creates a negative or positive vibration. Focusing on what is wrong, what is lacking, what is missing or anything negative will amplify that turnout. When we reboot how we look at our present reality and imagine the changes we desire we create positive vibrations which will attract more good into your life.  Focus on all that is good, all your blessings and imagine what you want to create.  Vision boards are a fun and easy way to create a visual reminder of what you desire.  Have some fun and make one today, add all the things you desire, no matter what they may be. As this may seem all too easy, it is the law of energy and will be if we follow through ...

If we spend our time only where we accomplish good for ourselves and the people we are with almost everything would change for the best.  So often we resist what we truly want to do and do things to please others.  The act of compassion does not mean compromising your needs and accepting poor or inappropriate behavior or doing things out of obligation, guilt or pressure. People choose their path, you are not obligated to be anywhere or do things that do not make you feel good. Many of us were taught to put others first, the truth is you can not give authentic love or support to anyone unless you give to yourself first.  Simple changes make big positive impact on our well being. Tips to help you value your time: 1) Set clear boundaries for how quickly you return e-mails , texts and phone calls.  2) When asked to do or go somewhere, pause, thank the person and say, " Let me get back to you."       Do Not Say Yes under pressure. 3) No ...

Our own personal greatness lies within each of us. It is our birthright to be happy and fulfilled, but many of us, me included were not allowed this natural freedom.  And, we can not blame anyone, because our parents, guardians and caregivers were simply doing the best they knew how. Which at different times in our life may be challenging to accept and get past. Each and every one of us has an intuitive light which guides and speaks to us, helping us with the infamous "Gut Feeling", but we must learn to listen first. As children we intuitively know what we like and dislike, hence the temper tantrums when things did not go our way.  as young adults the stifling of these feelings are amplified by society and by the time we are adults we may have lost our Intuition. Good news is you can wake up your "Light-Intuition" at any time you choose with a little self love and practice.  Our greatness lies within, not without, not because of our titles, finances or circumsta...

How can I benefit from working with an intuitive life coach? There are a million ways that an intuitive life coach can change your life for the better. In general, you will learn how to adjust your thoughts and feelings to vibrate at a frequency that is a match to the life you want. You will also learn to identify self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors and get in the habit of nipping them in the bud. You may get a better idea of who you are on a similar spiritual level with or you may even discover your life purpose. You may also begin to work on your dream career, find the love of your life, heal broken relationships, or set out on a fulfilling  adventure that satisfies your longing for discovery. You can explore how to feel happy and truly at peace. More things that can happen while working with an intuitive life coach include: Finding passions Taking up new hobbies Making new friends and improving social life Finding the courage to chase lifelong dreams C...